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The Cost of Accommodation: Syria and the Challenge to North America’s Leadership from Russia
Kaziwa Salih
Since early January 2026, al-Sharʿa has launched a mass killing campaign against the Kurds in the Rojava (Northeast Syria). Once again, without international backing, Syrian Democratic Forces commander Mazlum Abdi is being asked to continue the fight against a new form of ISIS while simultaneously negotiating with forces that many Syrians associate with past jihadist violence.
Kaziwa Salih
Ahmad al-Sharʿa, widely known as Abu Mohammad al-Julani, is now presented by some international actors as a political leader in Damascus following his rebranding from his former role as a commander of Jabhat al-Nusra, a group that was previously affiliated with al-Qaeda. While his political repositioning has been welcomed by some regional and Western diplomats claiming stability in Syria, many communities in northern Syria view this shift with deep alarm.
al-Sharʿa’s Achievements in Syria
Since his rise to power, Kurdish, Christian, and Druze communities are facing renewed threats from armed groups operating in areas now influenced by forces linked to al-Sharʿa’s networks. Since early January 2026, residents of Rojava, especially Aleppo, have reported widespread mass killing, targeted violence, and the collapse of local security. Local civil society organizations and human rights monitors have warned that these patterns resemble earlier campaigns of genocide and mass killing carried out by Islamic State in Iraq and Syria (ISIS) and jihadist groups during the height of the Syrian war.
In terms of the Arab‑Israel relationship, al‑Sharʿa publicly presents himself as favoring no new conflict and the maintenance of existing ceasefire agreements, a stance some observers interpret as pragmatic diplomacy. [1] Yet, the systematic targeting of Kurds in Aleppo and other minority communities, groups previously victimized by ISIS in 2014 and 2015, suggests that this diplomatic posture is largely performative. His actions indicate that strategic calculations, rather than ethical considerations, guide his approach to the peaceful administration of Syria.
In Iraq, Saddam Hussein’s 24-year rule was marked by six genocidal campaigns. In comparison, al‑Sharʿa, in less than a year of renewed territorial influence, has already committed four genocidal campaigns. Initially, his forces targeted the Allawi community. When international observers largely remained silent, his factions escalated violence against Christian communities. This pattern continued with the Druze, followed by renewed assaults on Kurdish populations with many aggressive measures. In these operations, al‑Sharʿa’s forces have employed brutality that, while extreme, appears calculated to exploit the perceived tolerance or procrastination of international actors.
These campaigns reveal that al‑Sharʿa has remained fully connected to the networks that emerged under ISIS. Within days of asserting control, he mobilized entire units to launch operations that echo ISIS-era methods. While international media often frame these actions as isolated or reactive, they are strategically motivated: Kurdish communities are targeted in Rojava not only because of their ethnic identity but also because of their democratic social structures, nonviolent stance toward Israel, and ideological independence from autocratic or jihadist frameworks. Similarly, Druze communities appear targeted in part due to historical and perceived ties with Israel.
The contrast between al‑Sharʿa’s public diplomacy and his operational record proves a fundamental gap between rhetoric and policy practice. His statements to U.S. officials and other international actors reflect pragmatic diplomacy aimed at maintaining external support or minimizing international intervention, rather than any substantive commitment to human rights or regional stability. In short, al‑Sharʿa’s diplomacy functions as a strategic veneer over a campaign of deliberate terrorist violence under different veils, an approach that has profound implications for U.S. and broader Western policy in the region.
North America’s Leadership: From a world free of terrorists to one led by terrorists.
Despite all the massive crimes, rather than confronting these terrorist actors directly, the US response has relied on light mediation, placing the Kurds in Rojava in the position of negotiating with forces they previously fought as part of the international coalition against ISIS. For many Syrians and Kurds, this constitutes a form of obligatory vulnerability: communities that survived years of jihadist violence and sacrificed thousands of martyrs are now expected to accept the same actors as legitimate political stakeholders. Otherwise, face the burden of another terrorist war alone.
In the current mass killings targeting Kurds, U.S. diplomacy frames both perpetrators and victims within the same neutralized framework, issuing statements calling for an “immediate ceasefire” [2] and saying “We urge all parties” as if the victims themselves were parties responsible for violence. In war and terrorist policies, this approach normalizes terrorist acts, erodes protections for minorities, and undermines the credibility of U.S. and broader North American leadership in upholding human rights, security, and regional stability. This statement can also be interpreted as a signal from Washington that Kurdish communities are expected not to defend themselves and instead accept the extermination of normalized SIS.
In diplomacy, it is referred to as conflict management and not conflict resolution. The purpose here is not to end the violence and hold anyone responsible, but instead, it is the prevention of instability from escalating in a manner which may potentially be damaging to the United States. In the Syrian case, this means prioritizing short-term stability, border control, and relations with Turkey and other regional partners over the security of Kurdish and other minority populations. This classic pragmatic strategy is associated with the extractive interventionism, in which the short-term geopolitical expansion is the main concern and not the stability. [2] This approach carries significant reputational costs and risks repeating the pattern of U.S. disengagement and loss of credibility witnessed in Afghanistan.
For decades, Washington has projected itself as a protector of minorities, a supporter of democracy, and the leader of the anti-terrorist and anti-ISIS coalition. Now, by treating ISIS-linked forces and Kurdish communities as morally equivalent parties, the U.S. is signaling to the world that its commitments are conditional and transactional. This causes allies to doubt the reliability of American protection, while encouraging adversaries to believe that violence can be rewarded if presented in diplomatic terms.
What Is at Stake for Canada’s Global Standing?
Canada has not singled out Rojava or the Kurdish administration for special military backing. Its emphasis has been on repatriation, humanitarian aid, and diplomatic engagement through support for UN-led political negotiation processes aimed at an inclusive resolution to the Syrian conflict, rather than military backing or strategic alliance.
Canadian lawmakers have occasionally voiced support for Kurdish political recognition. For example, on 27-8-2025, a Canadian Member of Parliament (not the government itself) said Ottawa would condition formal recognition of Syria’s new government on acknowledging Kurdish de facto authority in northeast Syria. [3] This reflects some indirect parliamentary support for Kurdish political legitimacy.
Regardless of their current internal political conflict, Canada and the United States are commonly perceived as a single strategic bloc in international diplomacy. This is due to their shared NATO membership, their joint role in the Global Coalition to Defeat ISIS, and their deep integration across Western policy frameworks. Both at the international and local level, for example, on Middle East policy, immigration and refugee regimes, and border security.
As a result, when Canada’s diplomatic position is stuck in either bystander or mirrors U.S. policy priorities, such as calls for “de-escalation” or support for broadly defined “inclusive political processes,” it is often interpreted internationally not as a distinct Canadian stance but as part of a coordinated North American approach, even when Canada’s actual engagement differs in scale or intensity from Washington’s.
The degradation of North American credibility does not remain a vacuum; it presents an opportunity that other powers, particularly Russia, are increasingly willing to fill.
From U.S. Retreat to Russian Advance
Russian diplomacy focuses on upholding its great power status and countering perceived Western hegemony, particularly U.S. dominance. To achieve its objectives, it often prioritizes national security interests, employing a combination of “coercive diplomacy,” which is power politics plus negotiations, with strategies like stalling and employing international law, and forging alliances with non-Western countries. [4] Since the past decade, Russia has proven its effectiveness in filling the international institutions and countries that failed to fulfill their roles.
In the Middle East, for example, it filled the UN Security Council when this institution was repeatedly paralyzed by vetoes from Russia and China, preventing binding action against Assad’s regime or ISIS-linked groups. In 2015, despite having been known in the region as the decisive actor by filling the “credibility vacuum,” Russia became the primary power broker in Syria, even as the UN failed to enforce its own resolutions. Now through the Middle Eastern countries like Turkey and Egypt, it aims at leading the global nuclear energy sector.
In Africa, after NATO’s intervention removed Muammar Gaddafi, the former Libyan leader, the UN and Western institutions struggled to stabilize Libya, leaving the country fragmented between multiple militias and governments. Russia expanded influence through arms deals, mercenary deployment (Wagner Group), and political support for one faction, positioning itself as a critical power player in Libya’s ongoing conflict.
In Europe, after international organizations such as the OSCE, the European Union, and NATO failed to deter Russian aggressive actions in the Crimean region in 2014 and in Ukraine. Economic sanctions were limited, and peace processes like Minsk I & II became ineffective. Russia expanded and solidified their territorial and influence gains in Eastern Ukraine, filling a vacuum of action by the international community that was too slow or ineffective in their multilateral efforts.
In instances where international institutions or Western powers fail to enforce standards, protect civilians, or stabilize conflict zones, Russia has consistently stepped into the resulting vacuum. Regardless of its current interests with Turkey, in the absence of effective American intervention, Moscow is likely to assert influence in Rojava and Syria more broadly—even if, as many in the Middle East describe, through deceptive means. This dynamic is particularly apparent in Aleppo, where reports indicate that many of the perpetrators in the current mass killings are Turkish nationals, including former ISIS and other jihadist fighters, who have been protected, trained, and explicitly supported by Turkey in coordination with al‑Sharʿa’s. It means the current force that kills civilians in Syria is not only Syrian forces but also the new form of ISIS created by Turkey and Qatar in coordination with al‑Sharʿa.
Collectively, these patterns reveal that the Kurds in Rojava, Syria, will not submit to a government that forms a terrorist force with international terrorist organization agents to kill its population and gives Turkey the chance to occupy Syria. On the other hand, the failures of North America, especially the US, and the uneven application of Western power not only leave crises unresolved but also actively shift the balance of global influence. Each time the credibility of North America diminishes, Russia not only wins space but also establishes itself as the guard of local security within regions where the West has failed.
Therefore, it is the responsibility of the United States, as long-standing partners of the Kurds, to help establish an independent, safe zone in Rojava and ensure stability for the Syrian population. The Syrians, liberated from authoritarian rule, demand protection from terrorism and the right to live in peace.
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https://cultureproject.org.uk/the-cost-of-accommodation-syria-and-the-challenge-to-north-americas-leadership-from-russia/
Feeding Her Child a Green Slipper Instead of a Cucumber
I first observed the confident, sad, yet hopeful face of Nabat Fayiaq Rahman through the black screen of the TV. She was wearing a traditional black Kurdish outfit that matched the stage curtains designed for the anniversary of the Anfal genocide, marked on April 14 of every year. The Kurdish Anfal genocide in Iraq was perpetrated by Saddam Hussein’s regime in the 1980s. Human Rights Watch (1994) estimates that 182,000 Kurds were buried alive in mass graves, many of which were found after Hussein was overthrown. More than 2.5 million people were displaced, 4500 villages destroyed, and 250 towns and villages exposed to chemical weapons. Nabat was from one of the destroyed villages, in a district called Qadir Karam in the Kirkuk province. Her red eyes, which indicated she’d been crying throughout the event, did not match her angry voice. “What did the government do for us?” she asked. “They did nothing. Once a year, during the anniversary, they [the government] remember that the Anfal genocide happened.” Nabat’s voice disappeared into a chorus of female voices sorrowfully singing a heartening lullaby, which until that moment had been meekly in the background of the program.
Lullaby, lullaby, lullaby.
The grief of the Kurds makes me lose my voice
To sing lullaby for all of you, each one thrice
Lullaby for my burning soul that doesn't rest day or night
Lullaby for my sons
Lullaby for my daughters
Lullaby for my husband, who was a leading Knight
Lullaby for my parents
Lullaby for my sisters
Lullaby for my brother, who was my posh
Lullaby for neighbours who turned to ash
Sleep, my loved ones
You may find peace in the grave
Since the Earth is a slaughtering cave
Read More:
https://digitalcommons.usf.edu/gsp/vol15/iss1/5/
https://digitalcommons.usf.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1827&context=gsp


Canada squanders economic, social benefits by keeping out new Canadians’ relatives
Canada goes against its own interests and values when it denies visitor and study visas to relatives of newcomers for fear that family ties in Canada will prevent them from leaving
by Kaziwa Salih
January 31, 2022
Canada is losing manifold economic and social benefits and going against its own values when it denies visitor visas and study permits to family members of new Canadians. Denials are rooted in belief that visitors with family ties in Canada are more likely to overstay their visas, but while no data exists to back up this claim, why should that even be a concern?
In the last century, Canada has earned a great reputation for accepting a large number of immigrants and valuing multiculturalism. Immigrants are a great boost for the economy. In fact, Canada’s current plans to accept 411,000 immigrants in 2022 and 421,000 in 2023 were touted by former Minister of Immigration, Refugees and Citizenship Canada (IRCC) Marco Mendicino as a way to help the Canadian economy recover from COVID-19.
Such framing emphasizes how immigrants benefit our economy not just by filling labour force shortages and paying taxes, but also by significantly increasing employment creation.
Despite this warm welcome, new Canadians often face hurdles when their family members wish to come to visit. When applying for a visa, relatives of new Canadians frequently receive the following response: “I am not satisfied that you will leave Canada at the end of your stay as a temporary resident, as stipulated in paragraph 179(b) of the IRPR [Immigration and Refugee Protection Regulations], based on your family ties in Canada and in your country of residence.”
The first three thoughts that come to mind when I encounter a sentence like this are: Do people with family ties stay and those without them return? Is this a favourable decision for the Canadian economy or even the IRCC’s plan? Do officers denying visas consider the repercussions of such a decision?
New Canadians: welcome but not included?
For this article, I spoke with 11 new Canadians whose family members had gotten multiple denials because of their ties to Canada. These dismissals have affected each of them in various ways.
Many said they felt guilty, believing that rather than being of assistance, they were obstructing their families’ dreams. This is especially true for those whose siblings had education or job opportunities but were turned down because of their familial ties.
Some of the people I spoke to said their family members, particularly their parents, felt Canada could reject their submission multiple times. This resulted in either familial issues or a sour relationship.
No one I spoke to wanted their names or photos to be made public for fear that expressing their unhappiness might result in troubles in Canada or further denials of their relatives’ applications in the future. It is hard to imagine they are feeling included in the Canadian society.
“Family ties in Canada”: an excuse with no backing in data
Due to the lack of official statistics regarding the number people who had family ties in Canada and didn’t return to their countries of origin compared with people who didn’t have family ties and didn’t return, I put the question to immigration lawyer Steven Meurrens.
“Logically it would be a reason not to go back,” Meurrens said of people with family ties, but quickly added he had clients of both types and couldn’t tell which category was more likely to stay.
“I have clients who did not go back because they had family here and clients who didn’t have family.”
Andrew Griffith, the former Director General for Citizenship and Multiculturalism at the Department of Citizenship and Immigration, and Mikal Skuterud, Professor in the Department of Economics at the University of Waterloo, point to Immigration Canada’s concern to keep the system’s integrity.
According to Griffith, the author of Multiculturalism in Canada: Evidence and Anecdote and Policy Arrogance or Innocent Bias: Resetting Citizenship and Multiculturalism, the “Canadian government tends to be very conscious of maintaining public confidence in the immigration system. Whenever we have the appearance or actual perception that people are taking advantage of the system, which is a very generous system, the government is concerned.”
Skuterud added that Immigration Canada understands the importance of public trust in the immigration system. There are numerous alternatives available, including family class, refugee, workers and students. In any case, people have to follow the correct procedure.
However, one must ask whether these programs are effective. Based on anecdotal evidence, the various visa programs don’t function as promised. I am aware of several refugees who have been working on family reunification since 2017. So far, to no avail. They haven’t seen their kids in at least four years.
My experiences as a refugee in Canada may prevent me from supporting the IRCC’s immigration plan. However, they allow me to reflect on the above questions and on how such a policy approach undermines Canada’s economic and social interests, especially given the lack of official statistics on overstayers with and without family ties in Canada.
Remittances: money that could stay in the country
Immigrants spend a significant amount of money and time on their family members in their countries of origin. For Canada, this has various negative economic consequences. One is the financial outflows in the form of remittances, as immigrants send a portion of their earnings back to families in their home country. This is typically sent to immediate family members such as parents, children, and siblings.
Another way that Canada misses out is that immigrants return to see their remaining family members more frequently, sometimes once a year. Not only does this mean that their holiday money is spent abroad but also that they often have to quit their jobs and stop earning an income in order to travel.
If the immigration system had less stringent rules for immediate family members, these funds would have been spent in Canada. Furthermore, new Canadians would be safer, as many of them travel to dangerous countries.
Missing out on savings in the settlement sector
Canada sets aside a large sum of money each year for the settlement of newcomers. In the fiscal year 2021-2022, IRCC has around $1.7 billion to spend on settlement services across Canada. In Ontario alone there are nearly 1,260 newcomer services provider organizations.
Settlement services aren’t required for most newcomers who have family members in Canada. Relatives who are already familiar with the system can help new immigrants in finding a home, a family doctor and a job, all needed to build a new life in Canada. This safety net translates to significant savings for the Canadian immigration system.
Griffith and Skuterud also believe that having family ties is vital in the job market, as newcomers will be assisted in finding work and integrating.
The value of social ties and emotional safety
I often hear from the new Canadians I know that they want a large family with more than two children if the circumstances allow for it.
As someone who has cared for two children whose parents aren’t in Canada, I can attest to the fact that Canada is one of the most challenging countries in which to raise a child if you don’t have a stable source of income.
Canada is one of the most exhausting countries socially and emotionally if you don’t have your own big circle, and the same goes for work and everything else. I’m not going to list the dozens of barriers; instead, I’d like to point out that having family members in Canada helps alleviate some of the burdens that immigrants face.
People I spoke to believe that Canada considers parents who come to live with their adult children in Canada as merely a financial burden on the system. In fact, the opposite is true. Parents and grandparents make a significant contribution to the Canadian system in the form of social and emotional support that is converted into financial benefits.
In many countries that Canadian immigrants come from, family members, particularly grandparents, aid in the upbringing of children. The perspective that their children will have a large circle of relatives to turn to in times of hardship, and that they will grow up in a community encourages single individuals to start families and immigrant families to have more children.
Furthermore, having family members nearby not only means not having to send remittances abroad, but also that the cost of daycare is reduced, if not eliminated entirely. This contributes to lowering the cost of government child-care subsidies for low-income families.
Above all, having immediate family members nearby provides both partners with peace of mind and contributes to their mental and emotional well-being. Because Canadian health care is publicly funded, this can also be viewed as an economic gain.
The Canadian immigration system is without a doubt one of the best in the world. Canada is also one of few countries to have formally adopted multiculturalism, which should imply more kindness and inclusion.
Why then should we not address our problems before they become unmanageable? Why not become more flexible with temporary visa offers for visitors with family ties in Canada, rather than exclude a segment of our society and miss out economically?
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Newroz: not the “Persian” holiday politicians make it out to be
Calling Newroz a "Persian holiday" is offensive to more than 300 million people and the many Canadian communities who have been celebrating it for over 3,000 years, writes Kaziwa Salih, a Kurdish journalist in Canada.
by Kaziwa Salih
March 18, 2022
Canadians who’ve arrived from many countries and those who trace their heritage to regions across Europe and Asia are getting ready to celebrate the ancient New Year’s holiday of Newroz, marking the spring equinox on March 21. Yet, Canadian media and politicians continue to call this a “Persian” holiday, bringing to Canada the ethnic politics that various minorities thought they had left behind.
Calling Newroz a Persian holiday is offensive to more than 300 million people and the many Canadian communities who have been celebrating it for over 3,000 years in the Balkans, the Black Sea Basin, the Caucasus, Central Asia, and the Middle East.
Prime Minister Justin Trudeau, despite efforts over the years — including personal appeals from myself — to raise awareness, continues to propagate this pro-Iranian language.
Last year, Trudeau did at least adopt the name of many communities that celebrate Newroz in his speech, but he still went on to say that these communities “will celebrate Newroz and the start of the Persian New Year.”
This message from our politicians will alienate the many non-Persians who celebrate Newroz as their new year. This occasion should be called “International Newroz Day,” as the United Nations has named it, without referencing any one specific community’s calendar since it’s celebrated widely.
Community Position
In a petition started on Jan. 30 and signed by over 700 people as of time of writing, the Canadian Group for Preserving Newroz as an International Day have asked Prime Minister Trudeau to stop identifying it as the “Persian New Year.”
“We moved to Canada to not have to fight to protect our cultural heritage any longer, but we are doing it here too,” said one of the organizers, who asked not to be named.
“Even here, I am not able to talk freely and give my name if I want to avoid being killed or imprisoned like Zara Mohammadi was by the Iranian regime, and like many other Kurds, if I go back.” (Zara Mohammadi is a young Kurdish woman who was sentenced to five years of imprisonment in Iran simply for using her mother tongue and promoting her cultural heritage.)
Why is Canada taking so long to follow the United Nations’ lead in adopting more inclusive and accurate language, something that organization did 12 years ago when it named March 21 as International Nowruz Day. According to the UN, “The word Newroz (Novruz, Navruz, Nooruz, Nevruz, Nauryz) means new day; its spelling and pronunciation may vary by country.”
Several years ago, I emailed a number of politicians, including Trudeau and Alberta Premier Jason Kenney, as well as former federal immigration ministry officials, and explained that Newroz is not celebrated only by Persians, regardless of the number of regions they may have occupied in ancient days, regardless of how these occupied regions were obliged to celebrate it under ancient imperial control, and regardless of the fact that they are the ethnic group that holds authority in Iran.
Except for the Kurds, a majority of these ethnic groups and regions have been free for hundreds of years. Logically, neither those nations nor the 45 million oppressed Kurds living in Iran, Iraq, Syria, and Turkey would celebrate Newroz for the sake of Persians.
Furthermore, based on the historical facts about each aforementioned geographical region, their ethnic and religious backgrounds, and the number of people who celebrate it, Newroz is also in the calendars of many ethnic groups with an Indo-European origin. In fact, several other people claim to have contacted the Prime Minister’s Office about this issue, though those attempts were not taken seriously.
Professor Jaffer Sheyholislami of Carleton University’s School of Linguistics and Language Studies said that regardless of ancient history, nowadays, “thousands of Kurds, as well as many other non-Persian nationalities, call Canada home because they fled the assimilationist and discriminatory hegemony of Persian language, culture, religion, and politics.” That’s why Sheyholislami believes our leaders should not refer to Newroz as “Persian” as it is a multilingual observance.
Since some members of the Greater Toronto Kurdish House have also attempted to raise awareness by sending emails to politicians, I asked Chato Wany, the president of the Kurdish House, about his concerns.
He states: “They should know that our disappointment and sense of loss of culture and heritage are real. We feel challenged to explain and prove our culture in the workplace and schools, in the heart of democracy. A denial of our cultural identity, as well as a violation of our rights to identity and heritage, we believe. Also, our new generation may face an identity crisis.”
‘Influential’ groups
Multiculturalism is a defining feature of Canadian society. Our leaders make an effort to participate in events celebrated by various Canadian communities, to congratulate them, and to send them encouraging messages.
However, Canadian politicians are often unaware of disenfranchised and minority backgrounds, perhaps because they have created a political market for ethnic communities and those with the highest value seem to be those with the most members and the greatest economic influence.
Cultural heritage advisers to Canada’s politicians play a key role in explaining political sensitivities. If these advisers are hired based on their prominence within their respective communities, then their advice risks serving only the interests of that one, dominant group.
Therefore, as Sheyholislami puts it, our MP may have been “ill advised” about the Newroz celebration. This political pandering is dangerous. If left unchecked, it could lead to ethnic conflict or sectarianism in the near future.
To summarize, since Newroz is the new year for many different Canadian communities, our leaders shouldn’t link it to any one heritage in particular. Although some believe that the Prime Minister is not required to participate in community events, I value his engagement and say that every war, atrocity, and ethnic conflict began with words. Therefore, leaders and citizens must consider each word carefully. Regardless of the circumstances, we want our leaders to constantly encourage peaceful coexistence in their speeches.
NCM
https://newcanadianmedia.ca/newroz-not-the-persian-holiday-politicians-make-it-out-to-be/

‘Your Accent Is Interesting’: Talking about Microaggressions Faced by Newcomers
Microaggressions happen to newcomers and immigrants daily, even during small talk. Being asked about one's accent is one of them, writes Kaziwa Salih.
by Kaziwa Salih
August 31, 2021
Small talk is supposed to be a visible aspect of Canadian culture, but it may not feel as friendly if you’re an immigrant and the subject of conversation is your accent. The often-dreaded question, “Your accent is interesting, where do you come from?” can make many newcomers feel like outsiders no matter how long they have lived in Canada. The person asking it is often unaware that they are guilty of a microaggression.
The Canadian educator and communication trainer Dalton Kehoe, who was my professor at York University, considers a healthy daily exchange or what he calls “small talk” of utmost importance for not only emotional and psychological well-being but also for social safety and for decreasing social threats.
People in heterogeneous societies have long sought to liberate communication from discriminatory codes to live in peace and harmony. But sometimes, discriminatory codes in daily communication become a norm due to widely used cultural practices.
The “othering” effect of microaggressions
Friendly social bonds decrease social threats and contribute to social safety, which is the foundation of national security.
As someone who specialized in how the accumulation of microaggressions in everyday life fosters macroaggression, I want to make my own contribution to building a more friendly society by highlighting one aspect of small talk that is considered a microaggression and could potentially lead to macroaggression.
Take a sentence like, “Your accent is interesting, where do you come from?”, which is used widely in Canada when the speaker wants to engage in small talk in the public sphere. There is a discriminatory code within this question — an “othering” of the receiver as someone belonging to an “outgroup.” That is, these words categorize the individual as being an outsider to the country they inhabit.
The person asked may take this kind of phrase positively or not give it much thought at all. However, over time, they may start to respond with a coded counterreaction. Here is an example of small talk I witnessed at one of the Canadian universities (italics used for emphasis):
Speaker: Your accent is interesting, where did you come from?
Receiver: I am from A, how about you?
Speaker: I am Canadian. [Speaker codes receiver as an outsider.]
Receiver: Where did your parents come from? [Receiver gives coded counterreaction: even if you are in-group, your parents are outgroup or outsiders.]
Speaker: They came from B.
Receiver: Do you speak French? [Second counterreaction from the receiver.]
Speaker: No, I had a few courses in high school. I know some words, but not more than that. How about yourself?
Receiver: I didn’t study French in high school because I didn’t do my high school here. But tried to learn a little more than you online. However, because English is already my fourth language, it is not easy to learn a fifth language. [Third counterreaction from the receiver highlighting that the speaker knows only one of the official languages of their country and indicating that they offended someone who speaks several languages.]
Empathy and imagination needed
This exchange wouldn’t have happened if the speaker had put themselves in the shoes of the receiver and understood that someone who leaves their land, family and friends must be quite courageous and may have faced many difficulties. Or if the speaker were merely realistic and realized that language fluency requires daily interaction and positive experiences.
If someone has an accent, it might mean they haven’t had sufficient interactions with native speakers, therefore they have not accumulated enough experiences. One could even conclude that the society in which the receiver lives is unfriendly; the locals do not befriend the newcomers to a degree that would enable the latter to improve their language.
Some people are just curious to hear other people’s stories, so they would ask regardless of any consequences. However, a genuine person who thinks of the whole society and people’s feelings can reach the same goal by rephrasing the question as, for example, “It’s so cold! You probably haven’t experienced such cold weather elsewhere?”
This way, the person asked has a chance to either answer yes/no or, if they desire more communication, elaborate on it without any hard feelings. Such a question is not coded with a direct discriminatory tone, so it’s no longer a microaggression.
Before I moved to Canada, immigration officers overseas provided a presentation on life in Canada and Canadian politeness. They mentioned that Canadians use the weather as an excuse to make small talk. It has been over 15 years since I arrived in Canada and I am still looking forward to a bit of small talk that starts with comments on the weather rather than with me.
The discriminatory codes of communication that have unconsciously become a part of the cultural practices and behaviours of people can become toxic. They can destroy the inner peace of communicators, which is the source of all other kinds of peace, and provoke anger or even aggression.
John F. Kennedy once said, “Peace is a daily, a weekly, a monthly process, gradually changing opinions, slowly eroding old barriers, quietly building new structures.” It would be nice if this peace-building process could include slowly eroding worn-out discriminatory codes and replacing them with casual comments about the weather. After all, Canadian weather is still as crazy as it was.
NCM
https://newcanadianmedia.ca/your-accent-is-interesting-talking-about-microaggressions-faced-by-newcomers/
